This year I’ve been trying to play more, to try to reconnect to what originally brought me to the lifestyle. Almost three years ago now I had picked up a new play partner and got to experience our scene through his eyes, my Little Prince, and was rejuvenated for a short while in that relationship. I got to experiment with impact play again, one of my truest loves in life, until we reached a point where I felt like he was asking me to take him to a place I felt he was mentally ill prepared for and so I had to cease the play until he could find an emotional outlet to go with the physical space he craved. Since then, I’ve had a hard time finding what I was looking for.
More often than not, I find a primary relationship which works well as a primary relationship as long as play is not involved. If we play, I feel there is too much that gets complicated and sometimes the play complications can effect the primary relationship and complicate things unnecessarily. I prefer peace over play and so that is usually missing. I have been working to alleviate that going forward and find myself half successful. I have gotten to do puppy play and bondage with one partner within the confines of a play partnership and a friendship; I have one impact play partner who I am also intimate with but not sexual with, yet; and I have one play partner who allows me to delve deep into psychological play within the confines of a play partnership. My nesting partner and I have microdoses of play – where he might be leaning over and I’ll start spanking him or if we’re in bed together for a while it might be time to wrestle and anytime we’re touching it could lead to sex and I prefer to always call him pup so that his pup side is always welcome out to play. What I don’t usually engage in any longer is random play partners.
However, there is a person that I’ve been acquaintances with for years who has offered service, to bottom, and to guide me as I learn rope and I took her up on that for a while. Especially coming out of a pandemic; especially as most of the bottoms I want to play with have some inkling for rope. She has another play partner of her own that she introduced me to because he also likes the idea of rope but hasn’t learned yet. He also likes impact but hadn’t learned, so he invited me along to co-top her in a nice hotel room. Our first play session was focused entirely on her. I was there to voyeur and to throw a flogger. It was the first time I’d done impact play with her at all. It was the first time that I had thrown a flogger in years.
We put her on a massage table and he played with her body. He positioned himself right between her legs and enjoyed himself almost as much as she enjoyed herself. I flogged. I flogged and flogged and flogged, taking careful aim, making sure each landed well. I warned him that I might be rusty but he trusted me and at some point he stopped his indulgence to tell me I was really good at what I did. He quantified it by explaining that he could feel the breeze of the falls against the top of his bald head but not once did a fall touch him. Some quick math told me I’d been flogging for half of my life now, so that makes sense. I was glad I wasn’t too rusty.
I pulled out paddles and showed him how to hold them, who the creator of them was, where to strike. I delighted as the little boy in him jumped into his eyes and they twinkled with mischief. The two of us topped her together, alternating swats with different paddles, and she still couldn’t get enough. When the two of us, the playful bois, grew tired of what we were doing, we strapped her to the table with a Hitachi and swapped actions for stories – boy is he a good storyteller. At the end of this session, they both thanked me and I admitted I had a good time. There was plenty to voyeur and it was exciting for me to be welcomed in that space, to be allowed to watch and not facilitate.
This time around it felt a little bit different. I already knew what I was getting myself into, so the novelty had already worn off. But they are both kind, warm people and I really like his stories. We were going to start with rope and once I got there, everything was already set up, with hanks of rope laid out for us to use. I’m still not great with rope and hate starting with something I feel inadequate with. Before we could get started though, we delved deeply into our mutual love of watersports and our mutual hatred for kinkshaming. Moments after that conversation wrapped up, it was time to play – and time to pee. I followed them to the bathroom as they got undressed and into the shower. Two things happened here for me that day: I got to see someone unapologetically wallow in a fetish of his and I got to experience how nice kink can be when it’s not laced with shame.
They decided to get clean before we started the rest of our play and that looked very intimate to me, more than just the kink I was there to watch and participate in, and so I excused myself to the next room. I had just finished negotiating with the male partner about the type of cucking I do and whether or not he would be interested in helping/participating in MY scene and he agreed enthusiastically and so I went to tease my sweet cuck about what I was doing for him, so that we could have our own scene together later, the next time we got together. I was flooded with all kinds of sexual lust at the moment and wanted to direct it at the right people. No more than a couple of moments later though, I heard her sing-songy voice trying to tease him about how she ‘accidentally’ touched him and got him all riled up and did I want to come and watch? I sure did. So I headed back into the bathroom.
She had him all soaped up, playing with his ass, while he was bent over at the waist, hands on the edge of the step-in shower – a position that I sure wouldn’t be able to hold for a long period of time and was impressed he could hold it at all. I stepped into the smaller room that housed the shower and sat down on the toilet. We had never talked about touch, or playing together, but were not opposed. We had done a quick and dirty negotiation a few days prior for the possibility of pegging and so physical touch was not off the table. I asked him, ‘Do you want to be pet?’ knowing that he might decline. He was the Top, after all. He is very alpha male. He is an older man, only two years shy of my biological father’s age – all of these reasons stacked against the idea of him accepting the idea of me simply petting him as he was being fingered, but to my surprise he enthusiastically consented.
I ran my nails through his hair and gently over his bare scalp. Down across the back of his neck and across his shoulders. Down his arms and back up his triceps. I could hear his breathing changing but even he admitted he couldn’t quite discern which touch he was reacting to at any give moment. I traced the outsides of his ears and as he was finally getting penetrated from behind, slid just the tips of my nails into his ears, where he could be penetrated in a new and unusual way. That led to a gasp and I knew I was on the right track. As she kept playing with him from behind, I caressed his freshly shaven face. Followed the lines down his jaw and rested my hands against his neck to see how he would react. I needed to get comfortable at that point, so I very carefully positioned my boots between the hands he used to hold himself up, where they would be the only things he could even see. Then, I applied pressure. Soft, even, applying pressure very gradually until I felt him take a very deep breath. I breathed in with him, held my breath as his was taken, and as I naturally exhaled, I released the pressure from his neck. Then, I pet him for a few more minutes: up his face, around his ears, across his scalp, gentle nails in his hair. I rested my hands in my lap and let them finish the rest of their scene.
Back to the set up, she declared: I’d like this scene to be all about him. Now, when someone declares that to a Top, it usually means they’re willing to give themselves over in whatever way the Top wants. Today, that meant she would be learning how to peg. I’ve done it and love the idea of it, but there are a few things that stop me: I’d never been intimate with this man previous to the bathroom scenario and sometimes it gets to feeling like being a fetish dispenser because I have almost no physical feedback and everything goes so much at the pace and feel of the person being pegged. I could coach, however, and she loved the idea of being able to service him in that way, making her the more natural candidate. We talked her through how to use the right amount of lube, how to insert, how to tell when he needed a break. He was aiming to drape himself across the ottoman in order to reach the right height for her – considerate in everything – and had a chair in front of him to rest his arms on. Again, I asked, and told him it was fine for him to decline: do you want me to sit in the chair? You can rest your head in my lap then. Less hesitation this time, and there was almost none the first time. As he reached the end of what he could tolerate – pain-wise, endurance-wise, body-wise (he was crouched over an ottoman for a ridiculously long time) – he asked for the condom that I had brought.
At this point in the scene, we took a turn for mostly vanilla sex, something that I had watched last time and thoroughly enjoyed. I enjoyed getting to hear their communication and to see their enthusiasm – his for using her and hers for pleasing him – and it reassured me that I have a long sex life ahead of me. This time, he said something that was of interest to me, and that was that she didn’t need to use lube, she could just spit. I asked him if it was a form of degradation, if he enjoyed humiliation, as I pulled my chair up behind the massage table he had shifted to in order to relax, in order to get off. No, he assured me, it is a blessing from the Goddess. All bodily fluids were a blessing from the Goddess. So as I placed my hands on his shoulders and she attended to him in just the ways that he enjoyed the most, I started talking him through just that: the feel of the spit on his cock, blessing him, giving him permission to enjoy himself; piss from the Goddess earlier, that he didn’t have to entirely wash away; and if he was a really good boy, he should be so blessed as to receive the cum of the Goddess. Where would that go? On his cock? In his mouth? Let her squirt all over his body, let it seep into his every pore, let him carry Her with him wherever he goes and when he’s fortunate, the wind will pass in just the right way that he could pick up the faintest trace of it and the smell would bring him back to right here, right now. Take the nectar of the Goddess and waste not a drop. And then, that condom was full of cum. He passed it off to me and asked if it would be enough for my cuck and I assured him yet, a single drop could be good enough for him, thirsty as he is.
He cleaned up and she cleaned herself up, to attend to both of us. We took a moment together to eat and then we talked about the scene. He told me that everything in the bathroom had been absolutely perfect. He hadn’t expected me to want to participate at all. My touch was just right. He’d never been choked before – his neck was too thick and his partners too small – and I got it just right the first time. He said there came a point in the scene where he felt so seen, so valued, so cared for, that it brought tears to his eyes. Did I also enjoy myself? And it was hard to explain that in the most unexpected place, with the most unexpected people, I would be reunited with the exact reason why I ever came into the scene at all.